Showing posts with label penpals. Show all posts
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Saturday, 6 June 2009

How Safe are you with Free Online Dating Services?


Online dating services have now become the new way of dating.

Instead of going out in a blind date with someone whom you barely know, more single men and women choose online dating services instead.

The most common kind is called free online dating services. There isn't many of them about as the service providers want just the serious members who are looking for a relationship or just fun and are willing to pay for this service.

Whereas if sites are free, then anyone who isn't serious will browse the site. Because the services are free, the common question that a prospective online dater would ask is, are these sites secured?

Online dating services are fast becoming an important classification of internet websites. But just as things have changed and evolved, scammers and con artists have also been "modernized."

In these modern times, almost everything can be accessed by anyone. With news on internet hacking and copying, you can't help but feel unsafe. More so if you need to reveal some personal information.

This explains why, despite the booming industry of online dating services, there are still quite a number of people who are hesitant of joining.

Internet sites which provide dating services have now been made more secure by the service providers themselves. Before deciding on joining a particular dating service provider, see if they have privacy policies.

It is important that any details that you give be kept confidential at all times. Sites which ask for several verifications before giving access to information are generally safer than those who dont.

One good thing about this kind of dating service is you dont need to disclose any credit card number. Because you dont need to pay for anything, there is therefore no need to disclose the same.

If someone pretends to be from the company, then contacts you and asks for such information, dont tell anything. Chances are, they are scam artists out to get your money.

Because these sites are for free, there are more members than in paid sites. This being so, members are most likely to belong to different backgrounds and financial status. That is why you should be more cautious in choosing the people that you respond to. Check their profiles well. If you see anything suspicious or somewhat deceitful in their profiles, you can then avoid communicating with the person. Some sites even allow the blocking of messages from other people.

The downside of free sites like this is the presence of spam emails and unsolicited offers. Never respond to such emails and erase them as soon as possible.

Once you're in, take time to get to know the person before divulging particular details. Take things slow and give yourself some time. Only when you've developed a closer, more intimate relationship can you give details on your real name, workplace, contact numbers, and others.
Also try and remember, until you get to know the other person better, they will be receiving plenty of messages from other members.

In meeting the person for the first time, choose a public place. Do not agree on meeting somewhere private like his place or a friends house. Tell a friend of your whereabouts, who you'll meet, where and when. Tell them you'll call them when you get home.

If you want to try online dating services, then free online dating services are the way to start. This way, you are able to test the waters without having to spend much. As to the question posted in the title, these sites are relatively safe. Just remember to take the necessary precautionary measures of online dating.

The important thing to remember is you have a hand in securing your own safety.

Monday, 9 February 2009

Free Online Dating....Is it right for you?

One of the major contributions of the internet to the dating scene is online dating. While the idea was frowned upon by most people in the past, now we see more and more people getting into it, and enjoying it. Among the hundreds of online dating sites, a particular site arouses the interest of most people. These are the sites which provide free online dating services. These sites, however helpful, continue to have some negative feedback from people who had bad experiences out of online dating. How did this happen and how do we protect future online daters from these?

The concept of online dating services is rather simple really. You register, make your profile, and then find other members by browsing through their profiles. If you are interested in a particular person, you send a message, or sometimes a nudge or wink! The other person then responds. Or someone who might be interested in you would send a message that you would respond to. Anything beyond that, such as meeting in person, exchanging of particulars, and others, would be your call.

Because these sites are free, practically anybody can be a member. And because of the large membership, it would be hard for the website host to monitor, more so regulate, the individual activities of their members. Rarely do they perform background checks or screenings of new members. Although all chatrooms will be monitored, or should be!

Now this is where the dangers usually lie. It is part of human nature to trust other people. The problem is people can be too trusting at times. For example, during the first meeting or date, the girl invites the guy to dinner at her place. The guy turns out to be an ex-convict or serial killer. Take note of online dating rule number 1: for the first meeting, always meet in a public place. That way, you can easily ask for help just in case things you need it. Friends can also be there to serve as "lookouts." This is not to scare you, but there are some horror stories of date rape and even death as a result of online dating. That is why it is important to be careful at all times.

Another kind of internet fraud is to pretend to lose some money in any way imaginable, such as by robbery or hospitalization. He or she then asks for money from the other person. Never give money or credit card information to anyone, even if you think you trust the person enough.

To avoid these, here are some things that you can do. First, never post personal information in your profile. This should be reserved when you've developed a level of confidence and trust with the person. Also, take note of any changes in attitude or behavior of the person you are talking to. Erratic changes in behavior and mood swings are some symptoms of serious mental disorders.

Free online dating services can be safe venues to meet and get to know people. But like everything else on the internet, do not take everything based on face value alone. Conduct some research about the website. See if there are any negative comments from past members. Take note of the safety precautions and keep the danger signs in mind always. Whether for free or not, online dating would still be risky if we dont know how to avoid its perils.